In the next several months, I will find myself in a new city.
I love the tingle this idea sends from my head to my toes. I am excited. I am terrified. The adventurous part of myself finds this concept seductive. The other part hates the idea of unrooting my stable and happy life.
Change is good. Change is good.
There is a man who comes into the bar I work at. He travels, and is not home often, so only comes in every couple of months. The first time I met him, he was so kind, interesting and memorable that he made an instant impression. It was strong enough that I remembered him several months later when he came back. I introduced him to some of my other customers and common ground was established between them. Next time he came in, it was with some of the regulars I had introduced him to.
I will not take credit for these friendships. Chances are, he would have made these connections himself. This interaction made me wonder how I could apply this to myself in a new city.
What if you don’t have that type of charm or find it difficult to introduce yourself to strangers?
We all have our daily habits. Maybe it's a cup of coffee in the morning, a drink after work, or time at the library. For one of your routines, start to frequent your favorite location. If the employees have any sense of service, after a time, they will start to remember you. Remember them back. Know their names. Start to ask about their lives. Within a month or two, you will notice your conversations become longer.
I have made friends, connections, and even found housing for other friends this way. It doesn’t take much time. You have to sacrifice diversity and go to the same place for a while which can be difficult for someone like me. But it's a small investment. It is a great way to meet people and you never know what opportunities will arise from it.